Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Advice

"Don't forget to spend quality time with your partner," says the parenting magazine to parents with a new baby in the house. Along with our parents and whoever else is giving out wise advice. I don't doubt the wisdom of not neglecting the relationship that created the new little life.

But, um. HOW?!? It's rather difficult when the new baby is screaming her lungs out and you both desperately want not to talk but simply to SLEEP.

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  1. Quality time can be just saying "I love you." during the brief lull of quiet when the baby takes a breath for its next shriek or it can be a frazzled kiss as your husband rushes off to work or even holding his hand as you <strike>drift</strike> crash off to sleep. Quality time is remembering that your partener is there, and it's all new to them as well. It's also getting somebody else to listen to your screaming kids for half an hour so you and your man can grab some coffee, make a quick run to the grocery store, or just go for a walk (in the rain/snow/dark/perfect weather) around the block without kids. Whether you talk or not doesn't really matter - you're together and alone. So I agree with Bethany too - sleeping is quality time.

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  2. Quality time can be just saying "I love you." during the brief lull of quiet when the baby takes a breath for its next shriek or it can be a frazzled kiss as your husband rushes off to work or even holding his hand as you <strike>drift crash off to sleep. Quality time is remembering that your partener is there, and it's all new to them as well. It's also getting somebody else to listen to your screaming kids for half an hour so you and your man can grab some coffee, make a quick run to the grocery store, or just go for a walk (in the rain/snow/dark/perfect weather) around the block without kids. Whether you talk or not doesn't really matter - you're together and alone. So I agree with Bethany too - sleeping is quality time.</strike>

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  3. The kids do not stay babies forever and more time is spent together but I agree with Bethany...sleeping is quality time.

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  4. If you figure it out, do let us know. Our marriage really suffered when we had an infant.

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  5. Hey, sleeping together is spending quality time together!

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